I’m going to be divorcing my husband soon and I have a 2 year old and one on the way(by my husband also). I’m 21. & I was wondering if I will ever be able to date again. Of course I wont be dating while I’m pregnant. LOL But afterwards. Is my life over relationship wise? Will any man ever want me again? My soon to be ex-husband always tells me “no man will ever want a woman who already had 2 kids” is this true?
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All I can tell you that I have 3 kids and my ex used to tell me the same thing…but my bf of 18 monts now is wonderful and loves and respect my kids …so If I did it you will too..your very young and you WILL find someone good for you and for your kids
kids are great. F, what the X thinks
First, don’t take let judgment get you. His opinion is definitely biased. But don’t judge him for that. He is going through his own pain and you should respect that. Just learn to filter comments like this. Have your own view.
Second, you are way too young and you have a whole life ahead of you. OF COURSE you will find somebody and OF COURSE men will want to date you. Now, what type of men? That depends on you. I recommend you to wait so that you can concentrate on your children, yourself, and finding a career or something to do that you enjoy. If you can do that, then you will be in a better place and the men who will come to you will be more respectable and with good intentions.
I am so in love with a woman who has a little girl. I am trying to get her to fall in love with me now…lol
But as long as they don’t have 3 or 4 then i am fine. I want to have one or two myself, and who can afford a lot of kids?
Men feel ok about dating a divorced woman with kids..however a 21 y/o with a kid already and one in the oven? Men shouldn’t want to date anyone who makes such bad decisions, because he gets to pay for the mistakes you made, as well as what your kids get to pay.
Seems to me you should forget about dating, and concentrate on two things..TUBAL LIGATION and getting your shyt together.
I wouldn’t say that “no” man will be interested in marrying
you but your choices are certainly greatly reduced.
Of course there will be plenty of men willing to bed you…
There are some men who do not want a package deal. They remind me of the lions that hunt down lion cubs to stop the dna of a competitive male. Then there are the prescious men who are able to love another mans offsprng. this is going to depend on you but you have to remember that they came first. If a man dont want your kids then he looses you. Thats how it has to be now. When you start dating, i advise you not to intro him to your kids. Wait till he is somoene you are thinking about a long term relationship with that way they wont meet a enterogue of different men. Its hard on them. THey get attached then you break up….you know? But hubby is saying that to control and hurt you . Dont listen to him. LIsten to taylor swifts white horse song. go to you tube if you havnent heard it yet.
You will be fine and you wil find love again. You willl be smarter this time. You know better what you want. just dont settle. You will have lonely times or horny times….dont settle.
good luck hon.
That is not true. You will eventually find someone..give yourself some time.
What your soon to be ex is telling you is untrue. I was in this order divorced once & widowed once with 4 sons, 3 minors and I met and married my current & last hubby 2 years ago this month and he had no issues with me having kids. His kids were 18 & 24 when we married so he had no responsibility to minor kids. My youngest was 6 when we married. Good luck with your future.
Mary in Camden, MI
You can tell him that he wont be able to wine and dine any women when he’s paying child support and alimony, either.
He is wrong .
Men will even date pregnant women .
Dating will not be an issue .
You got pregnant/married too soon. I wouldn’t focus on meeting another man for a long time. Focus on raising your kids for the next several years. True – you are not prime dating material and I am not a guy saying so. But if you concentrate on making your life better for you and your kids rather than starting a new relationship – all the better for all of you.
Obviously an easy score if she’s been knocked up before.
So not true, I have two kids also! A five year old and a two year old and I’m 27 years old! You’ll be surpised girl, I got so many guys wanting to hook up, it makes me smile to know I’m still wanted! My ex said the exact same thing to me, boy is he eating his own words, I made sure I got into shape later on and took care of myself! Now he’s with an older, fat, ugly,lady with 6 kids! LOL who got the last laugh!! I didn’t do laugh in his face though, his face shows his regret enough when I see him and his sweat pant and t-shirt wearing women!!! LOL he looks misarable!!!! So let your man say what he wants, it’s not true, and someday he will know it! Just tell him” I’d rather be alone, single and happy than to stay with you and be misarble for the rest of my life!”
I don’t think so.
If a man loves you for whom you are, he would accept you and your kids as a package deal. It might be harder, but it is not impossible. It takes a stronger man who is willing to take on the extra responsibility. You will get what you want eventually, just never settle.
how weird is it to find out he has knocked you up again while you are getting divorced?
that’s just creepy.
anyway, well-mannered clean children = not a problem.
filthy hollering brats = Baybay’s keeds = run like hell